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It
was amusing to read that Nalanda Medical College
girls performed a mock wedding with the Health
Minister, arguing that if their course was
extended to one more year, nobody would be ready
to marry them because of their age! The medical
ground for early marriage is perhaps known, but
was this medical ground the only reason of
resorting to this argument by future doctors?
Unfortunately, no. It only reflects what a
hypocrite society we are- we want girls to
become doctors and engineers and what not and
yet expect them to also get married early
because even if the guys are 35, their family
and they would prefer to marry a girl in her
early twenties (and with hefty dowry!)
So it basically puts double pressure on the
girls, to excel academically and do it as early
as possible, because if they didn't, they would
not get a decent guy to marry!! And so this
arguments by medical girl students.
However, at least medical profession is the most
coveted among Bihari girls and their parents,
possibly because it is much easier to marry off
"doctor" daughters than daughters in any other
profession. Otherwise, not so many girls (and
guys too, but for other reasons), keep preparing
for medical, year after year.
However, by putting forward the argument of
marriage, these students are only reinstating
and justifying the social belief that it is
somehow right to get the girls married off early
(not on medical grounds but because they will
not get a guy to marry!) and it is right for the
guys and their parents to expect their future
daughter-in-laws to be a successful professional
as well as young!!
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I
completely agree with the Maitheli
Singh, such type of behavior shown
by the girls student, is just the
mirror image of what is going in the
society. It is evident society do
see the girls mainly for their age
and not for the talent. Even if the
girl is talented, but if she is
little more in the age than what is
considered correct age for marriage,
they are looked down with the matter
of contempt. This should be changed.
This situation also differs from
place to place. Just take example of
the female living in metros, they
usually go and prefer for the
marriage only getting settled in
life, in carries and they are also
expected by most of the males in
living in metro. In metro settlement
in carrier for a female is as
important as that of male so to have
better life. The age factor is not
the only big factor.
If considering the above fact, it
clearly shows that the people think
based on the environment and the
society in which they are living.
Same type of incident did not
repeated in the other places. Now
its time for us to understand this
basic fact that age should not be
the only factor, if this is
understood by the same people in the
very same society then hardly we
would be seeing such incident. The
pressure is visible on the girls who
have not only to deal with pressure
of the society but pressure of being
well in their carrier and life. -
Onkar Nath - Dec. 11, 2007 |
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